You can have it all, just not at the same time.

If I put 2010 and 2011 on a scale, they would balance out almost perfectly.  In the last two years, I have lived a life-time of experiences and emotions and successes and failures. Maybe there are people blessed and lucky enough to have it all, AND at the same time— I have yet to meet any of them.  For the rest of us though, everything is possible, just not at the same time. 

If I have learned anything is that life is a sort of puzzle, where there are always a few extra pieces that just can’t fit into the picture at the same time.  There are several key pieces a lot of us desire in life- love, peace, freedom, time (to spend with family, to travel, to rest, etc), health, and while less people admit it- money too.  A combination of these pieces equates to happiness. Of course, money alone will not get you anywhere close to bliss. 

In the last two years, there has been a significant shift in the pieces that are in existence in my own life.  Love, time, health, are in full effect, freedom and peace are in the works, but money is not in the picture.  This, however, is a much better puzzle than the one I had in 2010 or previous years for that matter. 

In 2011, I traveled all over the world, I spent weeks with my family, I focused on my own thoughts and was free to to experience.  I feel much healthier than I have felt in years.  I am close to having it all, but not quite everything.  Why?  Because time is limited.  And we have to chose what things we focus our energy on.  We cannot be 100% focused on making dough and 100% focused on building our relationships, there is just not that much time in the day.   But it’s ALL consequential.  Everything we do is about trade-offs, and the choices we make today, will affect our puzzle tomorrow.  I am happy, so incredibly happy with the puzzle I have today.  I have it as a result of the choices I made the last six years.  Maybe I didn’t have to wait that long, maybe I could have traded in some peaces earlier.  But I didn’t, and that’s ok.

I know I will have to trade some pieces in the future, at some point I will have to start re-fueling the piggy bank.  In a few short days, I will have to trade time with family and loved ones for time on building an amazing business.  I might have to trade total freedom, for a little more structure.  I might have to trade peace for a little stress.  But as long as the puzzle continues to evolve and be on the right side of the scale, it will all be ok.  As long as the journey is more than about seeking my own happiness, my own happiness will eventually follow. 

Here it is to a 2012 where your puzzle looks closer and closer to your bliss!

With much love, and good thoughts,


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Desiderata of Happiness

Go placidly amid the noise and haste,
and remember what peace there may be in silence.

As far as possible without surrender
be on good terms with all persons.
Speak your truth quietly and clearly;
and listen to others,
even the dull and the ignorant;
they too have their story.
Avoid loud and aggressive persons,
they are vexations to the spirit.

If you compare yourself with others,
you may become vain or bitter;
for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.

Enjoy your achievements as well as your plans.
Keep interested in your own career, however humble;
it is a real possession in the changing fortunes of time.
Exercise caution in your business affairs;
for the world is full of trickery.
But let this not blind you to what virtue there is;
many persons strive for high ideals;
and everywhere life is full of heroism.

Be yourself.
Especially, do not feign affection.
Neither be cynical about love;
for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment
it is as perennial as the grass.

Take kindly the counsel of the years,
gracefully surrendering the things of youth.
Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune.
But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings.
Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness.

Beyond a wholesome discipline,
be gentle with yourself.
You are a child of the universe,
no less than the trees and the stars;
you have a right to be here.
And whether or not it is clear to you,
no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should.

Therefore be at peace with God,
whatever you conceive Him to be,
and whatever your labors and aspirations,
in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.

With all its sham, drudgery, and broken dreams,
it is still a beautiful world.
Be cheerful.
Strive to be happy.

- Max Ehrmann